For many seniors, driving is a critical link to their independence. As such, they are often reluctant to give it up – even if it would be in their best interest – and may even avoid any discussions that suggest they do so. If there’s a senior in your life, it’s important that you take a phased approach to this sensitive topic. Here are 5 tips for preparing for the conversation and ensuring your loved one’s safety.

1. Start the assessment early. Impaired driving skills generally happen gradually and affect different people at different ages. Many people drive safely well into their 70s. Others, due to failing eye sight or other health issues, may have driving difficulties much earlier. Observe your older driver over time. Listen for any concerns they express about driving (such as how awful traffic has gotten or how rude other drivers are), and use that as an opportunity to open the conversation.
2. Watch for warning signs. Do they have difficulty turning their head to see when backing up? Are they easily distracted or riding the brake? Have you noticed new dents or scrapes on the car or mailbox or garage? Are they disoriented, or have they gotten lost driving to places where they have driven many times before? The Hartford has a complete list of warning signs at www.safedrivingforalifetime.com. Use this as your guide.
3. Seek a professional opinion. If it’s a health issue, your loved one’s doctor may be able to provide information and guidance that will help convince your loved one that it’s time to stop driving. Or they may refer you to a driving specialist for a comprehensive driving evaluation.
4. Research alternative means of transportation. Many areas have government subsidized senior transportation options available for trips to the doctor, grocery store, etc. Providing information about these alternatives can go a long way in easing the transition and helping seniors retain their independence. Use The Hartford’s “Getting There” Worksheet to assess alternatives: http://hartfordauto.thehartford.com/UI/Downloads/Getting_There.pdf
5. Have the conversation. The conversation should happen long before there’s a serious issue. A potential opener would be a general discussion around health and safety and their connection to driving. Or talking about the increased hazards and traffic on the roads today. Ask questions to find out any concerns your senior has about driving. The important thing is to be sensitive to their need for independence while letting them know that you care about their safety.

For more tips on having this conversation, check out AARP’s online seminar: Talking with Older Drivers, www.aarp.org/weneedtotalk.